Lights! Camera! Action! Is making a sex video ever a good idea?

Sex on the first date? We’re OK with it if you are. Stalking your ex? We don’t recommend it, but we understand it. Threesomes or erotic spanking? We get curious too. But making your very own sex video? This is where we get all big sister on your ass.

Lust and Trust
Yes, it can be hot to star in your own private sex tape with someone you’re attracted to. Yes, it can feel harmless because you trust this person and believe it’ll never be seen by anybody else. But life happens. And when you create something that can be shared, stolen, found, used against you, sold, and/or viewed by anyone, you are at risk for exposure. Intimate, WTF-was-I-thinking exposure.

We know you think it won’t happen to you, but it could. Easily. So, ask yourself this: Am I OK doing this if my sex video goes public? If the answer is no, don’t film yourself having sex.

Are we being a Debbie Downer?
Does that sound extreme? Unfair? Sorry, but the truth is, even a blurry three-minute clip from that one time you filmed it could haunt you for the rest of your life. At school. At work. Anywhere. We just want you to be smart and take care of yourself. We don’t want to see you get hurt.

And we realize that some of you might want to break into the porn industry and could see an amateur sex tape as your first entry into adult film. If that is your legitimate goal, we wish you success (and safe sex). We even found an article to help you get the right equipment and good angles. But for everyone else who contemplates a little sex video just for fun, please consider the potentially devastating consequences.

Got another opinion? Willing to share your own experience—good or bad—with making a sex video? Please tell us your thoughts in the comments below this article.

Just looking out for you,

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