It’s a cliché, but it’s true: you can’t read your partner’s mind, and they can’t read yours. This is as true when it comes to sex as it is when you’re fighting about unloading the dishwasher.
Yeah, we’re saying you’re going to have to talk. About sex. Because despite what we’ve all been told, good sex doesn’t just happen all by itself.
Unfortunately, as most of us have probably figured out by now, we live in an effed up society where women and femmes are expected to conform to a strict set of rules about how to look (not to mention how to dress, talk, act, work, parent, not parent, and generally live our damn lives). And being constantly bombarded with these toxic messages can cause us to experience negative body image and low self-esteem. This is a big topic to unpack but because we’re us, we’re going to focus on how negative body image can affect us in bed, not just at the beach.
They say the brain is the most important erogenous zone. And while there’s more than one way to stimulate it, one great way is with dirty talk. If you’ve ever wanted to try it but clammed up suddenly, you’re not alone. We have the perfect solution for you: dirty talk mad libs.
This one’s for you—the unsung hero of the wedding reception with the fake smile plastered on your face at all times in case one of those stealthy photographers gets you in the background of a candid shot during the father-daughter dance. With these 9 tips, you can do it, friend. We believe in you.
Everyone seems to have an opinion about fat women’s bodies. As the weather gets warmer—and clothes get skimpier—I worry about how those opinions are starting to ratchet up. Most days I feel powerful and sexy and ferocious, like no one can hurt me or tell me how to feel about myself. Some days I feel disempowered, like everyone’s opinion of me is more important than my own. And some days, I feel something in between.