This week, we celebrated Thanks, Birth Control Day. Which means that we heard from thousands of you about why you love and are grateful for birth control. So we’re going to take a break from our regularly scheduled program of gushing about birth control to share other people’s gushing about birth control. Because frankly, we couldn’t have said it better ourselves.

Here’s the thing about using a diaphragm for birth control in 2019: people often think you’re a little out there. That might be because the last time we saw a diaphragm in popular culture was when Carrie Bradshaw of Sex and the City fame got hers stuck inside her vagina and had to turn to Samantha for help to get it out. But even then, in the late 90s and early aughts, diaphragms just weren’t very popular anymore. And yet, I use a diaphragm. In fact, for the past four years it’s been my primary form of birth control—and I’ve never been pregnant. So what is a woman in her early 30s doing using a diaphragm, when there are more popular (and more effective) forms of birth control out there?

Halloween’s officially over, but if you’re not ready to let go of witch season in favor of Santa season just yet, we’ve got you. Here are some of our favorite ways to use leftover Halloween candy in the bedroom—and hey, you’ll get an extra hour in bed on Sunday, so why not make the most of it!

In spring of last year, I finally got it: a referral to a surgeon to discuss my sterilization. I prepared my plea ahead of time: I’ve always been sure I don’t want to go through pregnancy and bear a child; if we change our minds, my fiancée (now wife) can have kids biologically; I have a bunch of kids in my life that I help care for already; and this would be gender-validating surgery for me.