Life’s complicated, and important decisions can take time. It can be tempting to ask advice from anyone and everyone, or just say “meh,” and go with the flow. But here’s the thing: some decisions in love and life can only be made by you—and sometimes going with the flow means you’re actually deciding not to take control of your happiness or your future.

September often brings chillier weather. But don’t let that keep you from burning up the sheets. This month is full of steamy twists, turns, and surprises. Here’s what’s in store for your sign.

Being cheated on sucks. While it’s tempting to think you’d simply turn on Beyoncé’s album, grab a bat, and damage some property before moving on with someone better, your real-life reaction might be more complicated (and hopefully more legal).

Maybe it’s a new relationship and you want to take your time. Maybe you’re just too tired tonight. Maybe they’re feeling frisky, but you’re really into a new Netflix series, or maybe one of you wants to use condoms and the other doesn’t.