Monogamy: Worth it? Want it?

First off, you do not need to be in a monogamous relationship if you don’t want one. Yes, we are stating the obvious, but sometimes there’s pressure to have one person in your life with the “significant other” label. Don’t buy into that. There is nothing wrong with you if you’re not in a monogamous relationship.

Now, if you do want to get your monogamy on—and there’s a certain someone you’ve been seeing who has not committed just yet—here’s some advice that could tip the relationship towards exclusivity.

• Top 10 Surprising Ways To Get a Guy To Commit: Some of these are good. Some make us want to punch our laptop. Take away the points that feel insightful and helpful. Ditch the rest.

• What To Do When Your Partner Won’t Commit: Patience is a virtue and waiting for someone to commit is going to help you develop A LOT of patience. Or it’ll drive you insane. Either way, be prepared for a bit of heaven and hell.

• Ask The Matchmakers: The Man Has To Plan: The Millionaire Matchmaker crew shed some light on dealing with commitment-phobes.

• How To Talk About Non-Monogamy Without Losing Your Mind: Every relationship is different. Maybe this will help you navigate yours and whether or not monogamy is even needed.

Of course, we will always encourage you to let things happen naturally over time. That way, if you do become exclusive with someone, you’ll know that it’s authentic, organic, and something you both want.

Have any advice for those of us dating a commitment-phobe? Do you believe in monogamy or do you think we’re not meant to be with just one person?

XOXO,
Bedsider

P.S. Monogamous or not, if you’re having sex and not ready to have a baby, make sure you’re using effective birth control.