Got a crush? Make your move

Nothing compares to the intense infatuation and burning desire that accompany a crush. Even if you’re the calm, composed, in-control type, a crush can turn you into a giddy, blushing puddle of attraction. And if you don’t do anything to take it to the next level, it can drag on for months.

Wouldn’t it be more fun to see if something is there instead of waiting, wanting, and wondering? Here’s what you’ll need to make it happen. (BTW, you don’t need to have all of these. Even one can see you through.)

Courage. Chutzpah. Moxie. Gumption. This is the oomph you need to get past any fear you may have.

Perspective. Compassion. Humor. When applied to life—or heart-melting crushes—these things help you love yourself through any situation.

Discipline. Care. Integrity. To keep you from doing things you’ll regret. It’s important to stay classy and take the high road even when consumed by a crush. Go ahead and be a smoldering, revealing bundle of lust. Just make sure you can hold your head high.

Trust. Boldness. Faith. Hell yes this can happen. Believe in yourself. It doesn’t even matter if it happens. What matters most is that you know how rad you are every second of every day and that good things are out there waiting for you. (Ancient wisdom says knowing this makes it true.)

Reality check: We think it’s important to point out that it’s definitely not fun to confess your feelings and have them not reciprocated. There is risk involved in putting it out there. That’s kind of why they call them crushes. But you won’t know if you don’t go for it. And bravery has its own rewards; it can make you more confident, resilient, and strong, all of which are sexy as hell.

Now… feeling ready to make your move, but want more of a step-by-step action plan? wikiHow offers 17 sweet (and shockingly innocent) steps to get your crush to like you.

Lovepanky gives some good advice on flirting with a crush and building chemistry. (Just remember that relationship advice is not usually a one-size-fits-all sort of thing, so use the tips that feel right for you.)

Not sure you’re ready to make a move? The Frisky says these eight signs will let you know when it’s time to confess your crush.

And whether your crush turns into something real or not, we suggest you get on birth control now—and stay on it—because being prepared for future sex in always smart.

Go gettem,

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