Just because you’re home for the holidays, that doesn’t mean you’re suddenly going to have zero sex drive, right? If all the fall foliage, cozy sweaters, and delicious side dishes have you raring to go, here are some tips on how to make it work.

We’ve all been there. All dressed up with nowhere to go, so to speak. Maybe it’s after midnight and everything is closed in your town, maybe if you try to tiptoe down the creaky stairs you’ll wake up your mom who will then ask lots of questions like are you really going out dressed like that young lady, or maybe you’re just too dang lazy to be bothered with getting out of bed.

Why do cats do this? Do they think it’s play time, and they’re confused as to why you’re playing with someone who isn’t them? Do they actually know exactly what you’re doing, and they DO NOT LIKE IT ONE BIT, YOUNG LADY, NOT ONE BIT? Are they judging your moves? Or do they just not like your new partner? We’ll never have the answer. But we do have some strategies for dealing with it.

You walk past bridal mags and flinch. Or you’re content just living together. Or maybe you prefer a nontraditional, independent lifestyle free from any societal influence. Or maybe you haven’t found the one or don’t even believe in the concept of the one.