Spring: that special time for budding flowers, the first rays of sunshine in months, and being chronically underdressed for the weather and therefore colder than you were in the winter. It’s also when we suddenly want to clean under the couch and throw away half of what we own for some reason. We don’t make the rules. But we do suggest that you save some of that spring cleaning spirit for your sex life. Here’s how.

If your best friend’s sister isn’t raving about it, then your sister’s best friend probably is. But is it something anybody can try once (and only some people will actually like and want to try again), like kombucha, or is it more of an identity thing that’s not really about “trying it” at all? And if you are going to do it, how can you set yourself up for success? We talked to Dr. Dulcinea Pitagora, NYC psychotherapist and sex therapist, to get the answers to our most pressing questions and yours (you’re welcome!).

Here’s what’s in store for you this month. Spoiler alert: April showers bring May flowers AND lots of hot, hot sex.

There’s nothing like the first flowers bursting through the cold ground and those first warm rays of sunshine hitting your face to give you a sense of hope and optimism. This month, that’s going to set the tone for your love life. Get ready for passion, joy, romance, and lots of new connections.