If your best friend’s sister isn’t raving about it, then your sister’s best friend probably is. But is it something anybody can try once (and only some people will actually like and want to try again), like kombucha, or is it more of an identity thing that’s not really about “trying it” at all? And if you are going to do it, how can you set yourself up for success? We talked to Dr. Dulcinea Pitagora, NYC psychotherapist and sex therapist, to get the answers to our most pressing questions and yours (you’re welcome!).