Most of us have had a bad breakup at some point. You know, the kind where you can’t stop crying for weeks and you have a pit in your stomach for months, and you can’t hear that person’s name without feeling like you’ve been sucker punched for years? We can’t much help with the PTSD, but we can help you figure out how to move forward.

Remember candy hearts? Those chalky little childhood treats that came around once a year? We’d eat them, oh yes, we’d eat them, because we knew that technically they were candy. But did they taste good? That’s an existential question we’re really not qualified to answer. What we are qualified to say is that the best and highest use of a candy heart is to use it to tell someone how you feel about them, but we were always too chicken to do that. So today we bring you a Second Chance. Celebrate Valentine’s Day this year by sharing on social or sending directly to a special someone.

There are some really good, compelling reasons to get married, from the practical (insurance, tax breaks, etc.) to the values-driven (like I value changing and learning with this person and being there for them for the rest of my life). But there are also some bad reasons to get married. Truly terrible reasons that people get married all the time. Which is probably why our divorce rate is so high. Here are seven of the worst reasons we can think of to enter into marriage:

February is confusing. It’s the dead of winter, which can be super depressing, but it’s also THE month for love and hot, steamy nights. Read on to find out how to balance your life this month so that love comes out on top.