In honor of Mother’s Day, we’re celebrating all types of parents and caregivers in all their multi-faceted glory. If you have a small human living with you, you know that they are worse sexy-time blockers than your college roommate when she had mono. But we think you deserve to get laid if you want to, and we’re going to help you make the magic happen.

Everything is in bloom right now, including you. This month will bring new opportunities, a new outlook, and new love interests. Just make sure you’re keeping your values in mind with every decision you make and don’t let your self-care slip too much or your body’s needs will slow you down.

Second dates can be hard. You’re transitioning from the light, sparkling banter of a first date to deeper stuff. You know you need to be vulnerable to find out if this is a good match for you, but this person is also still basically a stranger. We’re help to help you navigate these tricky waters with deep questions that aren’t too deep. You’ll get to know the person but neither of you will leave the date feeling laid bare. Unless that’s how you want it to go (wink wink).

It’ll come as no surprise to you that we think sex is great however you want to do it, whomever you want to do it with (as long as it’s consensual). But it does bring its fair share of awkward moments, and to pretend otherwise is not doing any of us any favors. If we were to get all of our knowledge and expectations about sex from watching mainstream porn, we’d think there were never any mishaps or actual human bodies involved, but that ain’t real, kids! Bodies do weird stuff and they’re a little bit gross! And that’s fine, and sex is still great, and you still look good doing it. So here are just seven of the many, many slightly gross but completely normal things that happen during sex: