What are some signs someone is about to come?

I can't tell when my partner is about to come.

Nov 02, 2021 Updated: Aug 28, 2025

Everyone is different, so there are no universal signals to look out for. Communicating with your partner will help. If you want to use the pull out method for birth control but your partner is unsure what their signals are, practice with a condom first, or it might be fun to mess around without penetrative sex to learn their “I’m getting close” quirks.

Still not working?

Still not working? If you don’t want to get pregnant now and your partner isn’t a pro at pulling out, you may want to use a more effective method or one that you are in control of. A few that don’t require an action in the moment are the pill, ring, patch, IUD, implant, and shot.

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Related methods

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Withdrawal (pull-out method)
Very effective if you do it correctly (but that can be hard to do). Hormone-free, zero cost, zero side effects.
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Implant (Nexplanon)
Super effective, lasts for years, low-maintenance, and private.
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Birth control shot
Very effective if you use it correctly. Lasts for months, is private, and is a good hormonal option for those who can't take estrogen.
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Condom
Very effective if you use them correctly, but not super effective the way most people use them. Hormone free, protect against STIs, and don't require a prescription, but they do require work.
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IUD
Super effective, lasts for years, low-maintenance, and private (though some partners can feel the strings). You can choose hormonal or non-hormonal.