Consent Mad Libs: How to ask for what you want

We need to talk about consent y’all. We know, we know. It can seem like such a complicated, sometimes scary thing to do that leaves you feeling awkward or embarrassed in the moment. We’ve definitely been there. But the truth is, consent is a practice. It’s something we’re doing throughout every aspect of our lives, not just during spicy time. 🔥 So we’re here to help you find the language to express your boundaries, desires, and needs with our Mad Libs game. These fill-in-the-blank scripts make consent easier, approachable, and more natural to you. All you need is your imagination. (thesaurus, optional)

Sending a flirty ask

“Hey [name], I’ve been thinking about your [a body part] all day. I’d really love to [action] with you—but only if you’re into it too. Want to talk about what feels good and what’s off limits tonight?”

Blanks to fill in:

• Name: your partner’s name/pet name
• Body part: whatever has you 😍
• Action (e.g., kiss, cuddle, tie you up, go down on you)

Checking-in on boundaries

“I’m feeling you so hard right now and definitely want to keep going. Just wanted to do a quick vibe check before we went any further. I’m down to [sensation or activity], but I’m not feeling [your hard limit] right now. How about you?”

Blanks to fill in:

• Sensation or activity: the type of sex, kind of touch, or even words you’re okay with
• Your hard limit: whatever types of sex, touch, or words that are off the table for you

Pausing in the moment

“This feels [adjective], but can we pause for a sec? I want to check in and see how you’re feeling about [activity]. We can keep going, switch it up, or take a break, whatever feels best for both of us.“

Blanks to fill in:

• Adjective (e.g., great, so good, amazing)
• Activity: the activity you’re currently doing or where things are headed (e.g., you’re making out but want to move to different kinds of foreplay or sex)

Pivoting during sex

“Loving this energy! But what you’re doing feels [neutral-to-honest word]. Can we switch things up? I think my body’s wanting [different touch or action] right now. Can we try that instead?”

Blanks to fill in:

• Neutral/honest word (e.g., okay, a bit much, not quite right, a little uncomfortable)
• Different touch/action (e.g., to slow it down, to kiss more, for you to touch me here - feel free to guide your partner!)

Sharing a kink you want to explore

“So I’ve been thinking about [kink or sensation] lately. I’m curious how you feel about trying it, or even just talking about it more. If you’re open to it, maybe we can start with [boundary-safe version of it] and see how we feel about it. We can come up with a safe word like [word/phrase], too. What do you think about trying that out together?”

Blanks to fill in:

• Kink or sensation you want to explore (e.g., spanking, wax play, edging, roleplay)
• Boundary-safe version: A way you can explore the kink (e.g., light spanking, a guided scenario, teasing); think of it as your starting point that feels safe to you
• Safe word/phrase (e.g., avocado, opera, pause)

Setting boundaries with that new someone you’ve been flirting with all night

“Hey, I really like your vibe. I’d love to [action] if you’re feeling it too. Just a heads up, I’m into [limit or preference] but not down for [firm boundary] tonight. Cool with that?”

Blanks to fill in:

• Action (e.g., dance, make out, exchange numbers)
• Limit or preference (e.g., making out on the dance floor, PDA, eye contact, etc.)
• Firm boundary (e.g., groping, going any further, surprises, no public stuff, one night stands)

Setting the scene with a new hookup

“I’m having a lot of fun and feeling you for sure. And I definitely want to make you feel good. Cool if we talk about what we’re both into tonight? I’m down for [activity or vibe], curious about [new or playful thing], and definitely not doing [hard limit]. How about you?”

Blanks to fill in:

• Activity or vibe (e.g., slow kissing, mutual touch, switching roles)
• New or playful thing (e.g., dirty talk, spanking, blindfolds)
• Hard limit (e.g., anything rough, penetration, pressure to finish)

Remember: consent is ongoing, and it doesn’t have to sound like a textbook. Think of these Mad Libs as your starter pack. These are just some of the playful, more vibey ways you can keep the convo open, sexy, and clear. However you decide to fill in the blanks, the important part is that you’re expressing your wants, needs, and desires—and checking-in to learn your partner’s, too.