First and foremost, make sure you talk to him before you two are in the process of getting hot and heavy. Second, you might want to think before you talk to him about exactly how you want to explain your choice. Be honest about your reasons and clear about what you are and aren’t comfortable doing. If he’s a good match for you, he’ll respect your choice!
“Not right now” is our way of saying “no vaginal sex.” It’s a great method as far as effectiveness is concerned—if you use it 100% of the time, you’re guaranteed to not get pregnant. And if you’re avoiding sexual activity altogether, you’ll be safe from STIs too. But it does involve a whole lot of self-control.view all methods »