It’s a cliché, but it’s true: you can’t read your partner’s mind, and they can’t read yours. This is as true when it comes to sex as it is when you’re fighting about unloading the dishwasher.
Yeah, we’re saying you’re going to have to talk. About sex. Because despite what we’ve all been told, good sex doesn’t just happen all by itself.
Unfortunately, as most of us have probably figured out by now, we live in an effed up society where women and femmes are expected to conform to a strict set of rules about how to look (not to mention how to dress, talk, act, work, parent, not parent, and generally live our damn lives). And being constantly bombarded with these toxic messages can cause us to experience negative body image and low self-esteem. This is a big topic to unpack but because we’re us, we’re going to focus on how negative body image can affect us in bed, not just at the beach.
They say the brain is the most important erogenous zone. And while there’s more than one way to stimulate it, one great way is with dirty talk. If you’ve ever wanted to try it but clammed up suddenly, you’re not alone. We have the perfect solution for you: dirty talk mad libs.
Sometimes you find yourself sharing a twin bed or one of you has a back injury or debilitating fatigue and you simply have no choice but to bang it out missionary style. Or maybe missionary is just your jam, which is cool too. Here are ten tips for spicing it up either way.
Sex is all about feeling great—until it doesn’t feel great. Unfortunately, dyspareunia (pain during sex) is more common than you might think. In fact, it’s so common that 3 out of every 4 women experience it at some point in their lives. (Although some people enjoy experiencing pain during sex, that’s not the kind of pain we’re talking about. We’re talking about the kind that’s unwanted and a total mood-killer.)