If October has you feeling antsy, resist the urge to change too much too soon. There’s a lot to be learned this month—especially about your love life and what you need from a relationship—if you can quiet your head long enough to listen to your heart.

So you’ve had the talk, and you’re officially in a relationship. Congrats! We hope they’re super nice to you and make you feel like rainbows are exploding in your brain or whatever. Now, you may have been having sex for a while already or you may be working up to getting down. Either way, it’s never too late or too early to talk about birth control.

If the sex you’re having isn’t super satisfying for you, if you’re in a rut and need to get out of it, or if you’re just curious about what it would be like to be more of a boss b*tch in bed, taking more control may just be the key. Here are some ways to get going.

Just like food or exercise when you have diabetes, there are a few things to keep in mind—but don’t worry. Whether you have type 1 or type 2 diabetes, you’ve got options.