Chilly weather might keep you inside this month, as Scorpio season brings a gust of secret, whispery energy. But changes of the heart (and libido) will keep you feeling anything but cold, even as winter sets in.

If October has you feeling antsy, resist the urge to change too much too soon. There’s a lot to be learned this month—especially about your love life and what you need from a relationship—if you can quiet your head long enough to listen to your heart.

So you’ve had the talk, and you’re officially in a relationship. Congrats! We hope they’re super nice to you and make you feel like rainbows are exploding in your brain or whatever. Now, you may have been having sex for a while already or you may be working up to getting down. Either way, it’s never too late or too early to talk about birth control.

We’ve all been there. All dressed up with nowhere to go, so to speak. Maybe it’s after midnight and everything is closed in your town, maybe if you try to tiptoe down the creaky stairs you’ll wake up your mom who will then ask lots of questions like are you really going out dressed like that young lady, or maybe you’re just too dang lazy to be bothered with getting out of bed.