It seems like every movie that depicts a couple moving in together shows them unpacking in their cavernous new home filled with original details, playfully putting a dab of paint on each other’s faces, eating Chinese food (or sometimes pizza), and then having sex on the floor. If only we could all live such a charmed existence! But alas, there’s so much more to it than that. It’s not all fun and games, and it’s definitely not all sexy. So here are our top tips for getting through the process with your relationship and your sanity intact.