What are the best methods that my partner won't notice?

It’s totally okay to use birth control privately, but some methods are much easier to keep private from a partner than others. To keep your method private, think about how your partner might discover it. Some methods, like condoms, internal condoms, and the pull-out method, are hard to hide from a sexual partner (they are actually more effective with your partner’s help). For the pill, patch, and ring, someone could find your birth control or the packaging, but once you swallow the pill, no one knows you are using it. The IUD is also very discrete, but some partners may be able to feel the strings during sex. Overall, the shot is the most private method once you get it, but it could change your period, so someone might notice. If you are looking for a permanent solution, sterilization surgery is also undetectable, but getting surgery can be hard to hide (and there may be age restrictions and waiting periods depending on your insurance).