Let’s be real, initiating sex can be hard. If you happen to be totally in sync with your partner all the time, then maybe it’s not, but that’s not reality for most people. It’s very easy to fall into a pattern of just waiting for your partner to initiate. This is especially true for women in heterosexual relationships because we live in a culture where men are expected to always want sex and women aren’t. But that’s not fair to anybody. So as a goal for 2020, consider working on building up the initiation muscle. Here are five ways to get started.