Unfortunately, as most of us have probably figured out by now, we live in an effed up society where women and femmes are expected to conform to a strict set of rules about how to look (not to mention how to dress, talk, act, work, parent, not parent, and generally live our damn lives). And being constantly bombarded with these toxic messages can cause us to experience negative body image and low self-esteem. This is a big topic to unpack but because we’re us, we’re going to focus on how negative body image can affect us in bed, not just at the beach.

Everyone seems to have an opinion about fat women’s bodies. As the weather gets warmer—and clothes get skimpier—I worry about how those opinions are starting to ratchet up. Most days I feel powerful and sexy and ferocious, like no one can hurt me or tell me how to feel about myself. Some days I feel disempowered, like everyone’s opinion of me is more important than my own. And some days, I feel something in between.

It’s Pride month! Yes, that means lots of fun events and general joie de vivre, but it’s about so much more than that. This year, consider doing the following to celebrate Pride (and don’t worry, you can still paint rainbows on your face and go get drunk, just do these things first).

There have been a lot of couples, or at least a lot of couplings, on GOT. Now that the last season is finally here, we feel compelled to remind you of the best (and worst) of what the show has laid out in front of us so far like a midnight buffet, a heady mix of mouth-watering, disgusting, and disturbing. We can only pray to the Old Gods and the New that things won’t get worse for us in the next 5 weeks (haha). So here they are, from hottest to nottest.